Can you believe it O fairest of women? I'm 26 turning 27 this year. Those that are already in their thirties and forties say that I'm still young (which is true) and then proceed to give that I'm-older-than-you-which-makes-me-wiser-than-you little smirk on their face where the dimples only show ever so slightly--more like a crease than anything--and the eyes gently, but very subtly, dip. Well...DUH. They're in their thirties and forties way passed their prime while I'm currently living mine. 8) (cool face).
Anyway, the sub-point is, I'm growing up. (slowly?)
The major point is this: I cannot fully grow and mature into the man of God He desires me to be as a single man, a bachelor (wow...that 'B' word really sticks out now); there's a limit, a threshold if you will. As a bachelor (whoa...that 'B' word again), I have come to realize I can only grow so much...
Now, O fairest of women, before you try and correct me by saying things like, "You're not trusting in God enough to grow your character"; "Of course you can grow as a single!"; or, which is my favorite, "Joseph...all you NEED is Jesus"--all of this, by the way, is a total turn on and makes you a total fox--permit me to explain my reasoning.
Here are a few of my thoughts. I'll connect the dots at the end. Enjoy!
1. I believe God desires to mold me into the man of God He desires me to become. He promised He would. Furthermore, I also believe He is preparing, growing, and maturing me to be a husband to and for you and vice versa. In short, He's preparing you and me for each other, to be ready for each other, ultimately, till death do us part, to love one another deeply...of course, in due season--in His timing.
2. The way God deals with His children is unique to each individual. The way He grows and matures each and everyone of us is different, purposeful, and vibrant. Why? Because it is a lifelong process--relationship--until He calls us home.
3. As the saying goes, "My wife completes me".
4. As Adam once said, "This [woman] is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh". Layman's interpretation: "My wife is my better half".
5. I need you and you need me; it goes past beyond our wants.
Dear wife...you know that God loves both you and me. You and I both know He wants what is best for us; we both know He wants to conform us to the image of His Son. What an amazing promise!
This is what I am certain of.
As a bachelor, I will only mature to a certain point; I will not be the perfected husband when you meet me, but I will be ready. I will still harbor weaknesses. I will still be filled with many shortcomings. Be that as it may, when we meet in God's timing, it will be perfect. God never makes a mistake and He plans perfectly; I just need to remain faith-filled and faithful to Him.
As to the reason why I am certain of the fact that I will only grow to a certain point is simply because of this: God wants to use you to help me grow FULLY into the man of God He desires me to be. And, with confidence I'll say, He desires to use me to help you grow into the beautiful woman of God He desires YOU to be. You will be my pillar and I will be yours. Of this, I am certain.
What a beautiful waltz this is O fairest woman!
If God is preparing me for you and you for me, of course I will not mature to my full potential WITHOUT you in my life!!!
Why?
Because every good and perfect gift comes from the Father above. You, O dear wife, are that perfect gift. I only pray you see all of this through the same lens I see them in: faith.
Wife, I wait patiently for you.
Yours truly,
J.S.Yoo